About Chuck

That’s the kind of place I work to provide

Most men don’t come to therapy because everything is going well. They come because something important is beginning to fall apart—or because they are tired of living in ways that no longer feel honest.

You may have learned to push through pain, keep your struggles private, and solve problems on your own. Sitting across from a stranger and talking about your inner life may sound uncomfortable, unnatural, or even pointless.

I get it.

Therapy with me is a conversation. I won’t sit silently while you struggle to figure out what you’re supposed to say. I’ll listen carefully, ask meaningful questions, offer honest feedback, and help you recognize patterns that can be difficult to see when you’re living inside them.

We’ll talk about what happened to you, but we won’t remain trapped in the past. Our work will also focus on what you need now, the man you want to become, and the practical changes that can help you move forward.

Why I work with men

I’ve spent more than 20,000 hours sitting with people and listening not only to what they say, but also to what they have difficulty saying.

Again and again, I’ve seen men carrying shame, grief, fear, loneliness, and enormous responsibility while believing they should be able to handle everything themselves. From the outside, they often appear capable and successful. Inside, they may feel exhausted, disconnected, resentful, or unsure of who they are anymore.

Men need places where they can speak honestly without being shamed, dismissed, or treated like a problem that needs to be fixed.

My work is about creating that kind of space, a place where you can understand yourself more clearly, take responsibility for your life, and make changes that reflect who you genuinely want to be.

I know what it’s like to lose your way.

My understanding of this work is not only professional. It is also deeply personal.

I know what it’s like to face cancer, addiction, depression, divorce, and the painful consequences of living out of alignment with my values. I know what it is like to realize that the life you’ve created is no longer sustainable—and that something has to change.

My own life has required me to confront parts of myself I would rather have avoided, take responsibility for the harm I caused, and rebuild a life grounded in greater honesty and integrity.

Those experiences don’t mean that I know exactly what it is like to be you. But they do mean that I won’t be frightened by the things you bring into the room. You don’t have to protect me from your anger, shame, grief, confusion, failures, or uncertainty.

I believe our most difficult seasons can become turning points. They can invite us to stop drifting, tell the truth, and begin finding our way home to ourselves.

What it’s like to work with me

My style is warm, direct, practical, and conversational. I’ll meet you with compassion, but I won’t help you hide from the truths that need your attention.

You can expect me to listen closely, challenge you when it serves your growth, and help you connect what you’re feeling with the patterns shaping your choices, relationships, and sense of self.

Our work may include:

• Understanding why you shut down, become reactive, withdraw, or avoid conflict

• Learning to express what you need without aggression or apology

• Rebuilding trust and emotional connection in your relationships

• Working through anxiety, depression, shame, grief, or unresolved trauma

• Navigating addiction, recovery, sexuality, faith, identity, and major life transitions

• Developing healthier boundaries and a clearer sense of direction

• Aligning your actions with the man you say you want to be

I draw from attachment theory, nervous-system regulation, relationship therapy, motivational interviewing, and practical approaches to lasting behavior change. I don’t believe one method fits every person, so I adapt our work to your needs, personality, history, and goals.

The men I work with

I primarily work with adult men who look capable on the outside but feel overwhelmed, disconnected, or uncertain underneath.

Some come because their marriage is struggling. Others are facing anxiety, depression, burnout, trauma, addiction, loneliness, or a major transition. Many simply know that something isn’t right and are tired of trying to think their way out of it alone.

I work with men across different backgrounds, beliefs, identities, and life experiences. Gay or straight, religious or uncertain, married or single—you are welcome here. You do not need to fit someone else’s idea of what a man should be.

You only need a willingness to be honest about where you are and curious about what could change.

Professional background

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor with a master’s degree in counseling psychology and a bachelor’s degree in human development. Over the course of my career, I have accumulated more than 20,000 hours of clinical experience helping people navigate relationships, emotional health, addiction, identity, integrity, and significant life transitions.

My professional background includes:

• Licensed Professional Counselor in Oregon and Idaho

• Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology

• Bachelor’s degree in Human Development

• More than 20,000 hours of clinical experience

• Level 2 training in the Gottman Method

• Certified No More Mr. Nice Guy Therapist

I am also an author, educator, and speaker focused on helping people move from merely surviving toward lives of greater connection, courage, and integrity.

A little more about me

Outside the therapy room, I’m a husband, father, writer, speaker, and person still doing his own work.

I understand the responsibilities and complexities of marriage, parenting, recovery, aging, faith, and finding meaning in the second half of life. I don’t approach therapy from a place of having everything figured out. I approach it with professional experience, personal humility, and a deep respect for the courage it takes to let another person see what you have been carrying.

Let’s talk.

You don’t need to have the right words or know exactly what you need before reaching out.

You may only know that something needs to change.

If what you’ve read here feels familiar, I invite you to schedule a consultation. We’ll talk about what is happening, what you hope could be different, and whether working together feels like the right fit.

You don’t have to go it alone