You’re doing everything
right,
but It’s not working.
You’ve been trying to make it work.
You adjust, give more, pull back… and still, it's not enough.
The distance grows. The conversations stall. And you’re left wondering what you’re missing.
You’re not failing, you’re off course.
I help men understand what’s actually happening beneath the surface
so they can move forward with clarity and direction.
If this sounds like you, let’s talk.
Counseling for Men
Counseling for Men
Are you faking it on the outside, but dying on the inside?
From the outside you look like you have it all together. You've got a career, a nice family, a nice house, and a 401k. But on the inside? You're dying a slow death. Maybe you doom scroll on your phone. Maybe you drink a little too much sometimes. Maybe you even look at porn. Whatever it takes to quiet the voice inside shouting that if anyone knew the real you, they would leave you and never look back.
So you just keep going, keep pretending, hoping you can hold it together for just one more day.
But then you look at your marriage and it has become more like two roommates managing a household than two people who genuinely know each other. Maybe you're more anxious or irritable than you used to be. Maybe you shut down during conflict, avoid difficult conversations, or find yourself reacting in ways your wife doesn't understand.
Sometimes it's harder to name than that. You just know you don't feel like yourself anymore.
And when that goes on long enough, men find ways to cope. They work more. Drink more. Check out. Get lost in their phones or pornography. Sometimes they find attention outside the marriage. Sometimes they simply go numb.
By the time they come to therapy, many have been living this way for years. One man told me recently, "I don't know what needs to change, but something does. I just can't go on like this."
That's often where our work begins. I offer therapy for men working through exactly this, the quiet unraveling underneath a life that looks fine from the outside, with telehealth sessions across Oregon and Idaho.
Therapy gives us a place to slow things down and understand what's actually happening beneath the surface.
Why do you shut down when your wife gets upset? Why does criticism hit you so hard? Why are you angry all the time? Why do you keep reaching for things that give you relief for a few minutes but ultimately make things worse?
We're not looking for someone to blame. We're trying to understand the patterns, where they came from, what keeps them going, and what it would take to change them. You may have spent years being the person everyone else depends on while paying very little attention to what's happening inside you. Eventually, that catches up with us.
You don't have to wait until your marriage is ending or everything falls apart to take what's happening seriously. If something isn't working, therapy can be a place to begin understanding why.
If you can relate, let's talk.
The new sentence sits right at the pivot point, "That's often where our work begins," where a shift into "here's what I offer" already made sense narratively, so it earns its place rather than feeling bolted on.
Hi, Im Chuck.
I'm a licensed therapist, but before any of that, I'm a guy who's lived enough life to know that having it together on the outside doesn't always mean things are okay on the inside.
I've also learned that most men aren't very good at asking for help. We're much better at pushing through, figuring it out, and telling ourselves we'll deal with it later.
Therapy gives you a place where you don't have to do that.
My approach is straightforward and human. I'm not going to sit silently across from you, nod my head, and occasionally ask, "How does that make you feel?" We'll talk. I'll ask questions. I'll help you notice patterns you may not see, and I'll challenge you when I think it will help.
Sometimes we'll talk about your marriage. Sometimes your past. Sometimes anger, anxiety, shame, sex, work, fatherhood, or the things you've been doing to cope.
Whatever brings you in, my goal is to create a place where you can be honest about what's really going on—and where we can begin to understand it together.
That's the work I love to do.
Why Trust Me?
Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) with more than 20,000 hours of clinical experience working with individuals and couples.
B.S. Human Development — Warner Pacific College
M.A. Counseling Psychology — George Fox UniversityNearly two decades of clinical experience helping men understand and change patterns involving relationships, anxiety, anger, emotional disconnection, shame, self-worth, compulsive behaviors, and major life transitions.
30+ years of personal experience with marriage — including the struggles, losses, mistakes, repair, and healing that come with real relationships.
Author of books exploring identity, integrity, and personal growth, including The Path of Integrity and No More Mr. Nice Guy: The 30-Day Recovery Journal.
“Chuck has a rare gift. His grounded presence, clear insight, and thoughtful guidance helped me understand things that had baffled me for years.”
— William W.
About My Approach
I believe therapy should feel like a conversation, not a diagnosis. My approach is practical and compassionate, focused on helping you understand what's driving your exhaustion and stress while giving you tools to manage them in daily life.
As a licensed therapist in Oregon, I specialize in working with high-performing professionals, particularly in healthcare, navigating burnout and the pressure of always being the one who holds things together. I help people under intense professional and emotional pressure slow down, stabilize, and reconnect with a sustainable way of working and living.
My work integrates evidence-based approaches for emotional regulation with practical guidance around decision-making, boundaries, and rebuilding a relationship with your work that doesn't cost you yourself.
Whether you're working to stay in your career sustainably or reconsidering what comes next, the goal is to move forward with clarity, integrity, and steadiness.
What You Can Expect
Therapy with me is about helping you understand yourself more clearly and find your footing again. Together, we slow things down, make sense of what feels overwhelming, and begin to understand the patterns that may be keeping you stuck.
Along the way, you'll develop practical tools to manage stress and overwhelm, set sustainable boundaries around work, and move through life with greater clarity, steadiness, and a stronger sense of who you are.
What We Talk About
People come to therapy for many different reasons, but often there is a common thread: something feels off, and what you've been doing to manage it is no longer working.
You may be struggling with:
Burnout, pressure, or feeling like you have to hold everything together
Drinking more than you want, looking at porn, making bad decisions
Anxiety, stress, or chronic overwhelm
Feeling emotionally stuck, disconnected, or shut down
The strain that work pressure puts on your relationships and closest connections
Life transitions or a growing sense of uncertainty
Grief, loss, or unresolved pain
People-pleasing, resentment, or difficulty setting boundaries
Low self-worth, shame, or persistent self-doubt
Spiritual questions, loss of meaning, or feeling untethered
Compassion fatigue or the emotional toll of caring for others professionally
Anything else related to being a man in todays world
Therapy offers a place to slow down, understand what’s beneath the surface, and begin responding with greater clarity, steadiness, and self-respect.
Frequently Asked Questions
Are you currently accepting new clients?
Yes, I'm currently welcoming new clients for online telehealth sessions. My up-to-date availability is shown on my calendar — just click the scheduling link to find a time that works for you.
What are your rates and do you take insurance?
Insurance
Yes, I take insurance. I am an in-network provider with Moda, Blue Cross, and PacificSource Health Plans.
If your insurance is not listed above, you may still be able to receive reimbursement through your out-of-network benefits. I'm happy to provide you with the supporting documentation needed to submit a claim to your insurance carrier. In these cases, payment in full is required at the time of the session.
While many clients use insurance to pay for therapy, others prefer to pay out of pocket.
Rates
Initial intake session: $270
55-minute therapy session: $250
90-minute therapy session: $370
Do you accept Health Savings Account (HSA) or Flexible Spending (FSA) benefit cards?
Yes! Some companies provide an HSA or FSA debit card for their employees that can be used to pay for non-covered expenses. If you don't have a card but have another type of health savings or flexible spending account, I'm happy to provide an invoice you can submit for reimbursement.
Do you offer in-person sessions or telehealth?
I see clients exclusively online. This gives me the flexibility to work with individuals from all over the state,", while offering you the convenience and privacy of meeting from your own space.
Do you work with both gay and straight men?
Yes. My clinical work has primarily focused on men, including both gay and heterosexual men, navigating relationships, identity, emotional isolation, integrity, sexuality, and major life transitions.
I recognize that gay and straight men may share many of the same struggles while also having experiences uniquely shaped by their relationships, communities, families, and histories. Whether you are gay or straight, you are safe here. My role is to understand the life you are actually living and help you become more fully the man you want to be.
Do you see couples?
My primary focus is working with individuals, but in certain cases I may meet with a partner or as a couple to support a client's growth and process. If you're looking specifically for ongoing couples therapy, I'll usually recommend you connect with a dedicated marriage and family therapist while I continue to support you individually.
What are your qualifications as a therapist?
I hold a Master's degree in Counseling Psychology and a Bachelor's degree in Human Development. Over the past 15 years, I've spent more than 20,000 clinical hours supporting individuals through challenges with relationships, anxiety, addiction, and identity.
What is your therapeutic approach?
I use a model I’ve developed called Masculine Embodied Neuropsychology (M.E.N.). This approach recognizes that the brain is a “drug-seeking machine,” always looking for the neurochemical rewards that come when our core needs are met. Instead of simply managing symptoms, we look at how thoughts, behaviors, and relationships shape the nervous system and the neuropeptides that drive our emotional states. Masculine Embodied Neuropsychology combines neuroscience, psychology, and embodiment practices to help men break free from old patterns, regulate their emotions, and create meaningful connection.
