You’re doing everything
right,
but It’s not working.
You’ve been trying to make it work.
You adjust, give more, pull back… and still, it's not enough.
The distance grows. The conversations stall. And you’re left wondering what you’re missing.
You’re not failing, you’re off course.
I help men understand what’s actually happening beneath the surface
so they can move forward with clarity and direction.
If this sounds like you, let’s talk.
Faking it on the outside. Dying on the inside.
A few years ago my phone rang.
The man on the other end said,
"My wife told me she's done."
There was a long silence before he spoke again.
"I knew things weren't great. I just didn't know they were this bad."
Over the past 16 years, I've had that conversation more times than I can count. The details change, but the story is almost always the same.
From the outside, these men look like they have it together. They're physicians, executives, business owners, or professionals who carry a tremendous amount of responsibility. People depend on them. They show up. They perform. They solve problems. By almost every measure, they're succeeding.
But what no one sees is what's happening underneath. It's a slow death by a thousand paper cuts.
Somewhere along the way, something has gone quiet. Work no longer feels meaningful. Their marriage has become functional roommates instead of intimate partners. They're more reactive than they used to be, or maybe they've gone numb. Sometimes they turn to office flirtations, sometimes to substance, sometimes to porn.
Most of them don't recognize how far they've drifted until someone else points it out. Sometimes it's a wife who says she's finished. Other times, they begin to hear it in their own words.
One man told me recently, "I don't know what needs to change, but something does. I just can't go on like this."
The men I work with aren't broken. They're exhausted from carrying too much for too long while ignoring the parts of themselves that need attention. They've spent years taking care of everyone else while quietly hoping things will somehow work themselves out.
They don't.
Look, you don't need to become a different man. You simply need to reconnect with the man you slowly lost while trying to keep everything else together.
If you can relate, then let's talk.
Hi, I'm Chuck.
I'm a licensed therapist, but before any of that, I'm just a guy —same as you, trying to make sense of this thing we call life.
Over the years I've learned that none of us are meant to walk the path alone. Sometimes we lose our way. Sometimes we get stuck. Sometimes we simply need someone who can see what we can't.
I like to think of myself as a guide who's been up and down the mountain a few times. I can't walk the path for you, but I can help you find it again. I'll point out the pitfalls, challenge you when you need it, and help you stay true to the man you want to become.
That's the work I love to do.
Why Trust Me?
Licensed Therapist (LPC) with over 20,000 clinical hours working directly with individuals and couples
BS Human Development—Warner Pacific College
MA Counseling—George Fox UniveristyAuthor of books on identity, integrity, and personal growth, including The Path: 16 Virtues of Integrity and No More Mr. Nice Guy: The 30-Day Recovery Journal.
30+ years of personal experience in marriage—through the struggles, breakdowns, and healing
"Chuck has a rare gift. His grounded presence, clear insight, and thoughtful guidance helped me understand things that had baffled me for years. If you're ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally move forward, I can't recommend Chuck highly enough." —William W.
About My Approach
I believe therapy should feel like a conversation, not a diagnosis. My approach is practical and compassionate, focused on helping you understand what's driving your exhaustion and stress while giving you tools to manage them in daily life.
As a licensed therapist in Oregon, I specialize in working with high-performing professionals, particularly in healthcare, navigating burnout and the pressure of always being the one who holds things together. I help people under intense professional and emotional pressure slow down, stabilize, and reconnect with a sustainable way of working and living.
My work integrates evidence-based approaches for emotional regulation with practical guidance around decision-making, boundaries, and rebuilding a relationship with your work that doesn't cost you yourself.
Whether you're working to stay in your career sustainably or reconsidering what comes next, the goal is to move forward with clarity, integrity, and steadiness.
What You Can Expect
Therapy with me is about helping you understand yourself more clearly and find your footing again. Together, we slow things down, make sense of what feels overwhelming, and begin to understand the patterns that may be keeping you stuck.
Along the way, you'll develop practical tools to manage stress and overwhelm, set sustainable boundaries around work, and move through life with greater clarity, steadiness, and a stronger sense of who you are.
What We Talk About
People come to therapy for many different reasons, but often there is a common thread: something feels off, and what you've been doing to manage it is no longer working.
You may be struggling with:
Burnout, pressure, or feeling like you have to hold everything together
Drinking more than you want, looking at porn, making bad decisions
Anxiety, stress, or chronic overwhelm
Feeling emotionally stuck, disconnected, or shut down
The strain that work pressure puts on your relationships and closest connections
Life transitions or a growing sense of uncertainty
Grief, loss, or unresolved pain
People-pleasing, resentment, or difficulty setting boundaries
Low self-worth, shame, or persistent self-doubt
Spiritual questions, loss of meaning, or feeling untethered
Compassion fatigue or the emotional toll of caring for others professionally
Anything else related to bein g a man in todays world
Therapy offers a place to slow down, understand what’s beneath the surface, and begin responding with greater clarity, steadiness, and self-respect.
Frequently Asked Questions
Are you currently accepting new clients?
Yes, I'm currently welcoming new clients for online telehealth sessions. My up-to-date availability is shown on my calendar — just click the scheduling link to find a time that works for you.
What are your rates and do you take insurance?
Insurance
Yes, I take insurance. I am an in-network provider with Moda, Blue Cross, and PacificSource Health Plans.
If your insurance is not listed above, you may still be able to receive reimbursement through your out-of-network benefits. I'm happy to provide you with the supporting documentation needed to submit a claim to your insurance carrier. In these cases, payment in full is required at the time of the session.
While many clients use insurance to pay for therapy, others prefer to pay out of pocket.
Rates
Initial intake session: $270
55-minute therapy session: $250
90-minute therapy session: $370
Do you accept Health Savings Account (HSA) or Flexible Spending (FSA) benefit cards?
Yes! Some companies provide an HSA or FSA debit card for their employees that can be used to pay for non-covered expenses. If you don't have a card but have another type of health savings or flexible spending account, I'm happy to provide an invoice you can submit for reimbursement.
Do you offer in-person sessions or telehealh?
I see clients exclusively online. This gives me the flexibility to work with individual from all over the state, while offering you the convenience and privacy of meeting from your own space.
Do you see couples?
My primary focus is working with individuals, but in certain cases I may meet with a partner or as a couple to support a client's growth and process. If you're looking specifically for ongoing couples therapy, I'll usually recommend you connect with a dedicated marriage and family therapist while I continue to support you individually.
What are your qualifications as a therapist?
I hold a Master's degree in Counseling Psychology and a Bachelor's degree in Human Development. Over the past 15 years, I've spent more than 20,000 clinical hours supporting individuals through challenges with relationships, anxiety, addiction, and identity.
What is your therapeutic approach?
I use a model I’ve developed called Masculine Embodied Neuropsychology (M.E.N.). This approach recognizes that the brain is a “drug-seeking machine,” always looking for the neurochemical rewards that come when our core needs are met. Instead of simply managing symptoms, we look at how thoughts, behaviors, and relationships shape the nervous system and the neuropeptides that drive our emotional states. Masculine Embodied Neuropsychology combines neuroscience, psychology, and embodiment practices to help men break free from old patterns, regulate their emotions, and create meaningful connection.
