The Path: 16 Virtues of Integrity

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Are you tired of feeling like you’re letting yourself down?

Do you catch yourself thinking…

“I’m not following through the way I should.” “I want to be respected — by my wife, my kids, my peers — but I don’t always feel worthy of it.” “I’ve drifted, and I’m not sure how to get back.”

Every man wants to be seen as a man of integrity. But somewhere along the way, life got busy. You started cutting corners. You compromised here and there. And without realizing it, you stopped feeling like the man you set out to be.

That’s where this book comes in.

The Path: 16 Virtues of Integrity isn’t about holding yourself to some impossible moral checklist. It’s about bringing your life back into alignment — so your values, virtues, and actions are working together instead of pulling you apart.

Courage. Assertiveness. Tenacity. Loyalty. Wisdom. Honesty. Humility. Generosity. Temperance. Excellence. Patience. Self-Mastery. Justice. Empathy. Grace. Forgiveness.

These sixteen virtues aren’t lofty ideals. They are practical tools — each one a way to rebuild self-respect, strengthen relationships, and live with purpose.

Chuck Chapman, licensed psychotherapist and men’s coach, didn’t learn this in a classroom. He learned it in the trenches of his own life, at a moment when a mentor looked him in the eye and said, “The reason you’re in so much pain is because you’ve been living out of integrity.” That realization changed everything — and it can change everything for you, too.

Through raw honesty, real stories, and actionable steps, The Path shows you how to close the gap between the man you are and the man you know you’re meant to be.

Because integrity isn’t just about doing the right thing. It’s about becoming the kind of man who can’t imagine doing anything else.

And when you live with integrity? You get your self-respect back. You get your clarity back. You get you back.

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Charles Chapman M.A., LPC

I help men who feel stuck, anxious, or overwhelmed find clarity and confidence again. As a licensed therapist in Oregon, I specialize in working with men facing anxiety, ADHD, and OCD—guiding them toward peace, purpose, and practical solutions that work in real life. My approach is grounded, compassionate, and focused on helping you understand yourself, manage your mind, and live with greater confidence and calm. Whether you’re navigating relationships, work stress, or inner restlessness, therapy can help you reconnect to what matters most—so you can lead your life with strength and integrity.

Helping Men Find Clarity, Confidence, and Calm

Therapy for men in Portland, Oregon navigating anxiety, ADHD, OCD, and the pressures of modern life.

From the outside, you might look like you have it all together—career, family, stability. But inside, it feels like you’re holding it all together with duct tape. You can’t turn your mind off. You feel anxious, distracted, restless, or stuck. Maybe you’ve tried to power through, hoping it would get better on its own. But it hasn’t.

You don’t have to keep doing it alone. I help men find peace of mind, focus, and emotional balance. Together, we’ll work to calm your anxiety, manage ADHD symptoms, and navigate intrusive thoughts from OCD so you can lead your life with confidence and purpose again.

About My Approach

I believe therapy should feel like a conversation, not a diagnosis. My approach is practical and compassionate—focused on helping you understand what’s driving your thoughts and emotions while giving you tools to manage them in daily life.

As a licensed therapist in Portland, I specialize in working with men who want to live with more purpose, self-awareness, and strength. I integrate evidence-based techniques for anxiety, ADHD, and OCD with mindfulness and grounded guidance so you can experience real change that lasts.

Who I Work With

Men who feel anxious, stressed, or overwhelmed
Professionals struggling to focus or manage ADHD
Individuals dealing with intrusive thoughts or OCD
Husbands and fathers trying to balance family and work
Men who feel stuck and want more meaning from life

What You Can Expect

Therapy with me isn’t about fixing you—it’s about helping you find your way back to yourself. We’ll slow things down, make sense of the noise, and uncover what’s getting in the way of peace and clarity. Along the way, you’ll learn practical tools to manage anxiety, build focus, and create a life that feels aligned with who you really are.

Here are some of the things I help people with:

Men's Issues

Men are told to man up. To keep it together. To provide. To swallow their pain and pretend it doesn’t exist. But the truth is, a lot of men are lonely, angry, ashamed, or stuck—trying to figure out how to be strong without losing their soul. I help men step into something deeper. We talk about presence, about purpose, about what it means to lead without control and love without fear. Because the world doesn’t need more men who are silent and checked out—it needs men who are awake, grounded, and alive.

Relationship Issues

We’re all shaped by the stories we tell ourselves about love. Maybe you keep repeating the same arguments, or maybe you’ve gone silent altogether. Sometimes it feels like you’re living next to each other instead of with each other. My work is about helping you see those patterns for what they are—old scripts that no longer serve you. Together, we uncover what’s underneath, the places your nervous system keeps holding on, and we start writing a new story. One where you show up with presence, courage, and the kind of connection you’ve always wanted.

Sexuality

Sex is never just sex. It’s history, it’s body, it’s belief, it’s the quiet whispers you’ve carried since childhood about what’s good and what’s bad, what’s allowed and what’s forbidden. For many, sex feels complicated—desire doesn’t match, shame takes over, or you feel like you’ve lost yourself in the process. I create a space to explore all of that. To get curious about how your body and brain work, to let go of the shame, and to rediscover your own capacity for desire and intimacy. Because your sexuality isn’t broken—it’s waiting to be reclaimed.

Codependency

You know that feeling—when you’re constantly scanning the room, making sure everyone else is okay, all while quietly abandoning yourself? That’s codependency. It looks like peacekeeping, but really it’s slow suffocation. I help you trace those roots—why your nervous system decided that pleasing others was safer than standing tall in your own truth. And then we start the work of coming back. Boundaries. Self-respect. The kind of love that doesn’t erase you, but actually allows you to breathe again.

Anxiety

Anxiety isn’t just in your head—it’s in your body. It’s the racing thoughts, the tight chest, the sleepless nights, the sense that something is always just about to go wrong. Your nervous system is stuck in overdrive, and you feel powerless to stop it. What if anxiety wasn’t the enemy, but a signal—your body’s way of telling you something needs to shift? That’s the work I do. We slow down, we listen, we learn how to soothe the system and rewrite the story. So you can move from frantic survival to grounded presence.

Spirituality

Faith can be beautiful, but it can also wound. Maybe you were told you were never enough. Maybe love always felt conditional. Maybe the God you were handed was small, angry, and hard to please. Spiritual abuse leaves scars that go deep. I walk with people who are untangling those lies, who are deconstructing, questioning, aching for something truer. Together, we explore what still holds weight, what needs to be released, and what sacred might mean for you now. This isn’t about rules—it’s about freedom. About reclaiming a spirituality that gives life instead of stealing it.

Frequently Asked Questions

Are you currently accepting new clients?

Yes, I am currently accepting new clients for online therapy sessions. Availability may be limited, so I encourage you to reach out to discuss openings and see if we’re a good fit.

What are your office hours?

My practice hours are Monday through Friday, 9:00 AM to 4:00 PM. I do not offer evening or weekend appointments.

Which insurance provider do you accept?

I am contracted with Moda, Regency Blue Cross, and Pacific Source

What if my insurance isn’t listed?

If your insurance isn’t listed, I can provide a superbill that you can submit to your insurance company for possible out-of-network reimbursement. Please note that it is your responsibility to check with your insurance provider about coverage and eligibility.

Do you see couples?

My primary focus is working with men individually, but in certain cases I may meet with couples for the purpose of supporting a client’s growth and process. If you’re looking specifically for ongoing couples therapy, I’ll usually recommend you connect with a dedicated couples therapist while I continue to support you individually.Results vary depending on factors such as commitment level, existing habits, and the complexity of your goals. Many clients start noticing positive changes within a few weeks to a month of consistent coaching.

Do you offer in-person sessions?

I see clients exclusively online. This gives me the flexibility to work with men from all over the state, while offering you the convenience and privacy of meeting from your own space.

What are your qualifications as a therapist?

I hold a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology and a Bachelor’s degree in Human Development. Over the past 15 years, I’ve accumulated more than 20,000 clinical hours working with men on issues such as relationships, anxiety, addiction, and identity. In addition to my clinical practice, I’ve developed specialized programs focused on men’s growth, drawing from both psychological training and real-life experience, including 30 years of marriage.

What is your therapeutic approach?

I use a model I’ve developed called Masculine Embodied Neuropsychology (M.E.N.). This approach recognizes that the brain is a “drug-seeking machine,” always looking for the neurochemical rewards that come when our core needs are met. Instead of simply managing symptoms, we look at how thoughts, behaviors, and relationships shape the nervous system and the neuropeptides that drive our emotional states. Masculine Embodied Neuropsychology combines neuroscience, psychology, and embodiment practices to help men break free from old patterns, regulate their emotions, and create meaningful connection.

About Your Therapist

Chuck Chapman M.A.

"I know what it’s like to feel stuck in a marriage that looks fine on the outside but feels empty on the inside. That’s why I’ve spent the last two decades helping men rebuild trust, reignite desire, and reclaim their role as confident leaders in their relationships."

Why Trust Me?

Licensed Therapist (LPC) with over 20,000 clinical hours working directly with men and couples
Creator of the Confident Husband Solution, a proven framework for restoring connection, respect, and intimacy
Published author of books on masculinity, marriage, and identity, including The Path: 16 Virtues of Integrity and No More Mr. Nice Guy: The 30-Day Recovery Journal
30+ years of personal experience in marriage—through the struggles, breakdowns, and healing
Trusted advisor to high-achieving men—including CEOs, entrepreneurs, and professionals
Conference speaker and group leader, including work alongside Dr. Robert Glover and the Integration Nation
Host of The Nice Guy Show, a podcast helping men break free from people pleasing behaviors and host of The Confident Husband Podcast, helping married men become amazing husbands.

You don’t need another self-help gimmick.

You need a way to show up differently—grounded, clear, and fully present. That’s what I help you build: the mindset and the skills to lead with confidence and create the kind of connection that lasts.